The book is a jumbled up mess in the writing. I'm more of a "get the hell over it" kind of girl. He suggested it because I don't deal well with overly emotional, crying, touchy feely people.
Ok, I read this because the boss suggested it. There's a few ethical and social limitations to it, but it does help have a high-stakes conversation and succeed. It really is an excellent book that I recommend to everyone. Note: I will add a genuine analytical review at another site when I finish. The crucial part of this list is, of course, the conversation. This is how you can fix the exodus of mass numbers of librarians, reviewers, and most importantly, readers who are leaving your site. What do you do when the conversation isn't going well and a party is acting defensively? You make it safe by:Ģ) Determine what condition of safety is at risk? A mutual purpose or mutual respect?Ĥ) Using contrasting skills to help fix misunderstandings, such as "I didn't intend to mean _," then explain what you did intend/meant. The authors state to set up a crucial conversation, the parties involved need to make it safe. Do you want to 'win?' Do you want certain people to leave the site? Do you want a book-selling synergistic Kindle machine? Do you want to keep the hard-working librarians and reviewers who built this site material active and involved? Once you've asked these questions, you then need to ask if your body language and interactions are reflecting these goals. I suggest you take these principles to heart. My Dear, dear Goodreads Customer Service, try this. The authors of Crucial Conversations did a lot of studies discovering that people who are skilled at dialoguing during crucial conversations:ġ) start with the heart, otherwise known as the self, by knowing what they wantĢ) they avoid the 'fool's choice' of the either/or solution and look for the 'and'ģ) they are smart enough to clarify and know what they don't wantĤ) they ask their brain to try and solve the harder problem-which means the 'and' one, not the gut response oneĥ) they note what their behavior says, so that their body language/actions are in congruence with their words, thus lending believability to their words And we've all witnessed how official 'my way or the highway' belief in a new, unbroadcast Terms of Service is resulting in a notable downtick in GR activity.
Ringing any bells? I can't state what the emotions of GR staff are right now, but they can't be positive ones. Specifically, an emotional need to "win" or be "right."Ģ) Believe the answer is the "fool's choice" of a yes/no, right/left solution. Ways you don't succeed in a crucial conversation:ġ) Allowing your emotion to dictate your dialogue. Sound familiar? What we have at Goodreads is a Crucial Conversation. 3) parties involved have strong emotions.
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